I received a message on FB tonight, whether the intention was good or not the message really upset me. First off I learned that people are talking about me. How do I feel about that? Obviously soon everyone will know and I want everyone to know, yet I want to tell people in my own time and in my own way. What I took away from the message (and this may or may not be accurate) was that this individual only cares about me and my son, that Emily does not matter. That translates to me as I don’t agree with these actions so I don’t support her. There was also the underlying assumption that they feel sorry for me. I don’t need sympathy. I’m very fortunate in many ways, one adversity I face is my spouse changing genders, no it doesn’t happen to everyone and it doesn’t happen everyday, but there are worse things that can happen. I’ve also been offered prayers and I don’t want this either. My religious views are very private to me, I do not ask for prayers.
With all this being said, please don’t misconstrue my intentions. I need support, I need caring friends and family, I need positive thoughts and I need people to bitch to in the times that are tough (you know the same things any married wife and mother needs). I do not need sympathy, I do not want anyone thinking “I’m so glad I’m not her”, I do not need people to come out of the wood work to suddenly care, if you care about me care about me, but don’t suddenly care because my husband is becoming a woman.