It’s been almost 11 months since the day my spouse told me he felt like a girl on the inside. 11 months of pain, anger, frustration and confusion. 11 months to grieve and 11 months to begin to move forward. Moving forward is what I have done, it was what I had to do. The pain is mostly gone and when it does come around it cannot even begin to compare with the pain of 11 or 8 or even 6 months ago. My new normal, as most people are unable to understand is being with my husband dressed as a woman. I understand everyone else’s feelings, I understand the hurt, the pain, the confusion, BUT I am not a therapist, and I can not help anyone move through this journey or give them some magical thing that will help them grieve. Everyone impacted needs support in the form of a support group, or a therapist. I’m happy and I can’t go back to the place of pain and anger, it hurts too much. I hope everyone in our lives can get to a good place with this whatever that means to them.