What animal would you be?
For many people I’ve become the trans guru and am often asked such questions as what I would do if I had a trans child. On the other side of people thinking I know everything about it some people think they know everything about it. Ever since I started coming out to be people I have heard what they would do if they were in my shoes or what I should do. I’m here to say I don’t know what I would do if my child were trans, I like to think that I know my child well enough that I could make the decision that would be best for him. As for those who think they know what they would do or think they know what I should do, they don’t period, end of discussion. Having a trans spouse is unimaginable in so many ways and you cannot hypothetically determine what you would do. There are even spouses of trans people who chose one path and a year later change their minds. It’s VERY complicated.
It’s like this…you know that famous question “if you could be any animal what animal would you be?” At first thought most people select their favorite animal, makes sense, but wait. Considering what animal you want to be then would be based on your feelings toward that animal and not really what that animals life is like. Did you consider their preditors? Their life span? Their reproduction? (Hello elephants are pregnant for 22, who wants to do that?) No, you didn’t. There are so many nuances to each decision in life that you could make that you cannot begin to consider unless you are living that life. If I had to change places with my favorite animal (a pig) i’d most likely have a short life that ended on the slaughter house, no thank you!
So while my exmaple here is far fetched my point isn’t, you never know what you will do in a situation until you are in that situation, regardless of what the situation is. So judge less, love more, and be kind to one another!