Why I Chose to be Positive
I worry that my positivity about my spouse and our transition comes off to others, especially other spouses of trans people as me thinking my way is the only way. I respect 110%, whatever decision people in this situation make for themselves. Everyone must do what is best for them and staying is not what’s best for everyone. I had to make the decision about what I was going to do and I came to that decision without reservation and then decided to move on with my life. I could chose to stay and spend the rest of my life asking “why me” and feeling sorry for myself, but what the point of that? This is my life I made the choice and I want to be happy, I don’t want to spend eternity wallowing in self pity. So I choose to be proud that I’m in a trans marriage and have a trans family. I choose to be proud that I have stood by my spouse and am doing what is best for me, my child, and her. I choose to be positive, to love my life to the fullest and be grateful for each day. Not all days are rainbows and sunshine, the same way that not all days in heteronormative marriages are perfect, but I’m doing my best and will continue to do so. I want to show people that this life isn’t all bad and you can chose to be positive and live a happy life!