Author: Emily

Transition plan update 0

Transition plan update

I am very overdue for an update of the transition plan so here we go… This week Nick started a new job.  This is a great move for him and our family for a...

A hard day 0

A hard day

The last two weeks have been really difficult for me, not just because my husband is trans, but for a variety of reasons. There are moments when I feel like I’m barely hanging on...

Scared of being hurt 0

Scared of being hurt

If your spouse comes out to you as trans you think you are the one with the power. You get to make the choice to decide to stay or leave and you are the...

Support group 0

Support group

I am part of an online support group for spouses of trans folk, and generally I will say this has been a good thing for me.  It puts me in contact with others who...

Stages of grief 0

Stages of grief

The stages of grief are experienced by anyone who faces a loss and that is not any less true for people who love someone who is trans. I’m losing the man I married, there...

Navigating children 0

Navigating children

Navigating children who know nick is a whole other can of worms. It’s a more complex issue and they have to understand to accept. Tonight Emily was introduced to our friends who are our...

He will be gone 2

He will be gone

I’m reading a book that my husband thought I should read. I’m actually not a huge fan of the style of this authors writing, but I’ve been sticking with it hoping it will get...

What are we? 0

What are we?

My struggle all along has been…so what are we now?  To the outsider we could look like two friends or a lesbian couple.  Both of those are fine options, I obviously have female friends...

Normal? 0

Normal?

Lately I’ve been feeling like my new normal is what’s normal (for us anyways) more frequently… We are currently on a trip to my in-laws hometown in Illinois to celebrate Nick’s  grandma’s birthday parties....